Time goes, you say? Ah no!
Alas, Time stays, we go.
~Henry Austin Dobson
Me and Zhennie Poo (Zhen-Marie) on a coffee break.
My Goal for the Week:
I was reading an article this morning about a very famous country music star who will be headlining a concert in my town. In the article, the writer’s main focus was how the star juggles her music career and being a mom and wife all at once. The music star detailed how she had a very busy schedule for the day all while needing to take care of her baby. She, of course, had help with taking care of her child, so she was able to take on her busy schedule. But something she said in the article struck a nerve with me.
Her baby had- what my husband and I like to call- a “stinky” and it got in her hair. Yuck! She jokingly exclaimed, “I don’t have time for poop in my hair!” She went on to say she had to be in hair and makeup soon for another on-camera interview, and the list goes on.
I thought to myself, “Wow. With all the poopy diapers I change and spit up stains on my clothes, how many times have I said ‘I don’t have time for poop because I have to be in hair and makeup for [insert event here]?” Um, never!
The article went on to depict her as being so cool because she can do it all with a glamorous music career and motherhood. She even still goes on tours throughout the year. Just an awesome superstar mom!
And I just shook my head and thought to myself, “Since when did this being so-busy-business become so cool?” When did we start aiming to achieve the “I Wanna Do It All” lifestyle?
When did being busy all of the time with a million things to do become the way to live?
What happened to just slowing down and doing one thing at a time?
What about staying focused on ONE task and savoring the moment? Not trying to do ten things at once and missing out on the experience?
And what are we teaching our children when they see us trying to “do it all”? Are we truly teaching them the value of relationships and the time we have together?
I’m not suggesting this famous singer doesn’t value her family or her time she has with them. I don’t know her personally to make that judgment call.
It was just, when I was reading over her busy schedule and learning she has two small children, it made me think that’s not cool at all. I wouldn’t want a glam lifestyle and running around doing a million things when I have young children to care for. Wait, let me rephrase- not “care for.” She has somebody caring for her children. It’s very easy to find someone else to care for your child/children. I mean, SPENDING TIME with my children. I wouldn’t want to be so busy that I have limited time to spend time with my children (or loved ones).
And to clarify, I am not saying working parents do not spend quality time with their children. I’m focusing on the aspect of “doing too much” or being extremely busy that time spent with loved ones is very, very limited.
I know for me personally I would feel really guilty being so busy all of the time and having to pencil in family time on my schedule.
Then another thought occurred to me: Why does this even bother me so much? Why does reading about some famous country star’s (who I don’t even know personally) busy life as a superstar mom upset me?
Answer: Because she sounds like ME!
My Three Munchkins
No, I’m not a superstar, but I do have a busy life, just like her:
I have calendars marked up of a hundred things-to-do. My smart phone is constantly “alerting” me of an important reminder, bill payment, or scheduled appointment coming up. Heck, I had to start penciling in a break time for myself and time with my husband because I got so busy!
I live on little sleep. I have a million thoughts racing through my mind. I’m always trying to get ready, do my hair, put on my makeup, get dressed for the next event I have to show up for.
I make appearances at school plays, soccer games, cheer practices, FRG meetings, birthday parties, choir shows, band concerts, field trips, doctor’s appointments, luncheons, church events, and more.
I’m constantly “signing autographs” by signing checks/receipts, signing children’s report cards/progress reports/notes, signing for this…signing for that.
I’m a “Mamarazzi” (according my middle daughter) because I’m always snapping photos of the family. I have people constantly demanding my time and presence (kids, husband, family, etc.).
I post and tweet my little blurbs about my life and what I’m doing/where I’m going (“Jenn just checked-in at Starbucks for a nice, hot white mocha!”) on social networking sites such as Facebook and Twitter. I blog about my life (as if I’m so famous!).
So, you know what? I don’t have time for poop, either! Better yet, let me say what the singer probably (I’m only assuming anyway) really wanted to say: I don’t have time for shit! And that shit poop stinks! (Okay, so I’m just putting my twist on the whole “poop incident”, but I would say that, “I don’t got time for shit!”)
Reading the singer’s busy schedule/life as a superstar/mother/wife resonated with me because I know I’m that person, too (minus the glitz, glam, and oh yeah- MONEY)!
So never mind my criticizing the superstar. What about me? What about my life? If I’m tired of being busy ALL of the time, then what am I going to do about it? If I want to truly teach my children how to value their time (especially with their loved ones), how am I going to SHOW them the true meaning of honoring relationships?
Questions to ponder. Life lessons to learn. It was a teachable moment for myself (so amazed!). Last week, my goal was to drop my OCD complexes with perfection and learn to be more FLEXIBLE. So my goal for this week (April 14 – 20) is to focus on the concept and value of TIME. I think it’s time for me to stop trying to “do it all” and start doing one thing at a time and truly enjoy the time I have with my children, husband, family, friends…and even myself.
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